I always thought that a family that stayed together, played together, ate together, loved together, was a happy family, but through they years the fabric of a family can tear. Dissolve into selfishness and uncaring in our stubbornness. One incident can tear a once loving family into two or three unwanted factions of disappointment and hate. Coming into the Holidays is supposed to be a period to be thankful you have the family to fall back on to enjoy life. Instead the splintered group falls into what the individuals call harmony.
I remember the holidays when brothers and sisters took the time to visit Mom and Dad for thanksgiving and everyone pitched in to help by bringing a dish for accompanying the stuffed turkey and everyone helped clean up as we watched the Cowboy and the Lions host an NFL game. This is my favorite day of touch football which turned into tackle football as the game progressed or maybe a soft ball game with the gang from work. Beer always accompanied all sports activities. TheFamily would change the house that invited the family for turkey day. One year it was a sister, next year it is a brother, but we all got together even if we lived hundreds of miles away.
Christmas breakfast was at the in-laws and dinner at Mom’s. Christmas Eve was at my best friends house to exchange Christmas ornaments and have egg nog and conversation. It is funny how things change into disharmony such as cancer, death in the family, and attitudes change because of difference of opinion. Family becomes estranged from each other and hearts are broken and stupid verses come out of members mouths that for some reason cannot be forgiven.
Another Holiday Season is upon us; a time to reflect, forgive, and thank people who stay in your life and fond wishes to those who do not want to be in your life. Those people I forgive for their transactions for my life is good, prosperous with those who wish to be part of my life. I have no time for anger, hate, jealousy or animosity’s. Only for tranquility, harmony and love. Thank you for being part of my existence. Pura Vida!
How do you measure a family
The arguments and acrimony
Or their forgiveness and charity
Or their coming together in harmony
Is it the everyday being together
Helping each other when it matters
Coming together in times of need
Always willing to please
Timothy M. Nugent: A Collection of Poems
Timothy M. Nugent
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